Etiquette & FAQs

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CONTACTING Mistress Inga

First Impressions Count!

I do not discriminate, but I DO like to be approached in a polite, respectful manner. If this is your first time contacting me, take a moment to introduce yourself. I do not answer emails or texts unless you tell me who I am speaking to, so include your first name (or the name you’d like to go by).


Confirming your appointment

Once we agree on a date/time for your session, I will require a deposit to reserve your slot. On the day of your appointment, you will text or email three hours before your scheduled time in order to confirm that you will be there for your appointment. If I don’t hear from you, I assume that you aren’t showing up, and neither will I. If for some reason you are unable to contact me the day of the session, let me know the night before that you will be there, and that you aren’t able to give the standard confirmation.



My personal phone line is open from 10am-8pm and is reserved for established clients and those who have already introduced themselves via text, email, or fetlife (Mistress Inga).

I do not take calls from clients who have not introduced themselves, but am happy to schedule a call with a new client via text or email.



Clients are encouraged to text, as long as they introduce themselves in the first message.



Email is the quickest and easiest way to reach me. I usually respond to emails in 24 hours or less, but if you don’t hear from me in that time, I am probably busy and will get to you as soon as I can. I answer the emails of everyone who approaches me in a polite, respectful manner, so don’t hesitate to contact me.


***It is my job to keep you safe/sane during an impact play session…***

If you have any health issues that might affect your safety during your session, please let me know ahead of time so that I can plan out your session accordingly.


References and Reviews

If you take the time to leave a review on TheHobbyHunter, TNA, My Fetlife page or another site you know of, I will take 20% off of your next session.

I am happy to provide references once I have met you for at least one session. Send requests for references to with REFERENCE REQUEST in the Subject line so I can be sure to answer your message in a timely manner.





… when booking/planning a session

When you contact me to book a session, I will spend some time chatting with you about what you are looking for. Likes, dislikes, and hard and soft limits will be discussed in these emails. If we feel comfortable with each other, we can move on to a coffee date or scheduling a session together. Most clients schedule without meeting me first, but you should do whatever feels most comfortable for you. Once your session is scheduled and I’ve received your deposit, I will plan our time out in detail according to what you want to experience. I welcome any insight into the things you fantasize about/enjoy, as these details help me plan a session that really fits with your needs.

On the day before your session, I will send you the directions to my session space.


… for my first session

The day of your session, you will text/email two hours before your scheduled time to confirm that you will be meeting with me that day.

Arrive in time to find parking, but please do not arrive at my door earlier than your scheduled time.

You will knock on my door and I will let you in, and ask you to sign a release form (if there is any impact play involved in your session). You will leave the remainder of your tribute on the clipboard, and your session will begin. After your session, we’ll take a moment to chat about what you liked and disliked. I encourage you to email me after a session to discuss these things as well, because those details help me plan your next session. If you are satisfied with your session, please take the time to leave a review at any of these sites. If you send me the link to your review, I’ll take 20% off of your next session with me.



What tribute amount do you require (what are your prices)?

My prices can be found here and sometimes vary depending on the type of play you are requesting. I am a Professional, discrete, high end Domme that will provide you with a unique and high value experience. My prices reflect the time and effort I put into communicating with you and planning your session.


How do I know you are discreet?

Unfortunately, in this day and age it’s hard to trust someone speaking over the internet. I do mean it when I say that I understand the nature of this interaction and that it often requires discretion. The privacy of my clients is a top priority for me, and all client info is kept only for my safety and the purpose of talking back and forth with you. All phone/text/email discussion, and anything that happens in your session is between you and I, and I take that very seriously. Please note, that if you send me an email, text message, or leave a phone message, you need to specify if it is not OK to leave a message/contact you using that number/email.


Do you require references?

I do sometimes require references.  If you are new to using Pro Dommes, I will most likely ask you to attend a paid meet and greet over coffee. There are some exceptions to this, so reach out even if you are unsure about whether or not you can provide references.


How do I book a session?

To book a session, contact me via email or text message.


What services do you provide?

I provide a wide variety of services, from Domination, to BDSM/Kink guidance, to sensual massage, to Couples kink classes. See my Menu/Services page for a general list, or feel free to email or text if you want to try something not listed.


Are you available for sessions as a switch/submissive?

I do not engage in any sessions as a switch or a submissive at this time.


What is your personal style of Domination?

Though I do have a mean streak, I am best at sensual domination. I like a nice, long punishment session, but I also like to push my submissives to explore their kinks in ways that make them feel validated and secure. Some clients prefer to explore their kink through pain, while some prefer to use encouragement, structure, service, or lifestyle change. I am open to all of these options and have experience in each of these areas. What your session is like will depend on your needs and interests, so don’t be bashful when it comes to communicating these things to me. The more information you provide, the easier it is for me to create a session that we’ll both thoroughly enjoy.


What makes you different than other Dommes?

I am not the typical bitch domme. I believe that your submission is a gift, and that I am here to guide you in the exploration of your submission in whatever way is most beneficial to you. I choose my clients carefully, and prefer to take on those who are sincere in their need and exploration of submission, and willing to communicate with their Domme. I love helping others explore their submission, push their boundaries, or just let off some steam. This is a job I truly love, and your enjoyment of your session is one of my top priorities (but trust me, I’ll enjoy it too!).


Can we meet to get to know each other before my session?

Meeting a Domme for the first time would make anyone nervous. I am happy to meet for 30 minutes for a coffee date, at a place of my choosing. There is a nominal fee of $100 for my time. When we’ve chatted a bit, you can decide if you feel comfortable booking a session (that day or in the future).

(Please note: For the safety of my submissives and myself, I do not drink alcohol with clients before sessions, nor do I accept gifts of alcohol or other substances to be consumed during a session.)


Where is the Dungeon located?

While I prefer to keep the exact location of my space private until you have a confirmed appointment, below you’ll find the general locations of my spaces.


Portland: On the West Side near OHSU, discreet parking available.

Seattle: Located just North of Downtown Seattle, Discreet alley entrance, paid street and garage parking available.

LA: In Los Angeles I work from two spaces. One is located E of Downtown LA, the other is in Tarzana.


Do you take trades?

I do not accept trade offers of any kind from clients that have not established a D/s relationship with me. Once I know a client well, I am sometimes willing to barter, but prefer to deal in cash/BTC only.


Do you provide sexual services?

I provide BDSM, Domination, Fetish, Kink and Educational services only. Although I believe that no one has the right to tell you what you are allowed to do to your own body, I do not provide any sexual services, and any person who contacts me asking for illegal services will be politely turned down or ignored.


Do you make outcall appointments?

I prefer to work from my personal session space.

Outcall is available for established clients only and is solely at my discretion. If you are an established client who would like to request an outcall session, please contact me via email at


Financial Domme? Doesn’t that mean you steal my money?

Traditionally, financial domination gets a bad rap. Only in some cases is it about handing over outrageous amounts to your dominatrix. Most Professional Dommes who practice financial domination do it in a way that helps their submissive regain control of their finances. Checking in on your spending and doling out punishments when you don’t follow your budget are some examples of less ahem…extreme financial domination.




What if I need to cancel my session?

Your deposit is made to reserve your session time and is non-refundable. However, if you need to change your session date/time your deposit is transferable, providing you contact me by email two weeks before your scheduled appointment. Your deposit can only be transferred once, and a last minute (less than two weeks) change to your session date will mean losing your deposit. If you simply need to change the time of your session, this can often be done without any need to lose your deposit. Just get in touch with me by email and I will try to work with you.


Why do you require a deposit?

Your deposit reserves your preferred session date/time. I require deposits from first time clients only. Clients who make deposits tend not to cancel last minute. Last minute cancellations are an issue because they mean that your time slot could have been used by another client whose business I missed out on because I chose to have a session with you instead. Essentially, your deposit is your promise to me that you will treat my time with respect and show up for your appointment.


How much is a deposit?

Deposits vary by session length.


30-90 minutes: $25

2 hours +: Overnight sessions, sessions that require travel, or those that require me to block off 2 or more hours of my time will require a deposit of 25% of the total session fee. Please note that sessions of this length should be booked as far in advance as possible.


How do I make a deposit?

I accept deposits in USD or BTC. To make a deposit in USD, go to and follow the directions to send the required amount to my email address It is important that you include your name and scheduled appointment date/time in the comments section of the deposit. If this is an issue for privacy reasons, message me privately and we will chat about other options.

To make a deposit in BTC contact me via email.


How can I discreetly make a deposit?

The most discreet way to make a deposit is by sending btc. If you are having trouble sending your deposit, or need to chat about a more discreet way to reserve your session, don’t hesitate to email me.


Do you take long term clients?

While a spend a lot of time touring to other cities, I really enjoy nurturing lasting D/s dynamics with my submissives. For that reason, I always encourage anyone seeking a long term Dominatrix/submissive relationship to get in touch with me. I find that these clients are the most rewarding and fun to work with, and I’m always looking for more! I connect genuinely with my clients and I want to connect with you.


Do you offer long-distance submission?

Yes, I do offer distance Domination. You can email me for more info.


Do you offer Couples Sessions

I practice BDSM in my personal life as well, and so I really enjoy sessions with couples who have a desire to bring kink/BDSM into their bedroom but aren’t sure where to start. If you are interested in participating in one these teaching/exploration sessions with your partner email me to ask more or head over to my SERVICES page for more a detailed description.


What type of workshops do you offer?

I offer a wide variety of workshops, most of which are listed on my SERVICES page. If you have an idea or need for a workshop not listed, feel free to send an email and I will let you know if I have the knowledge/skills to provide what you are looking for.